Follow your heart, not your brain

The only person who says that you can’t do something is YOU.

What do you tell yourself that you can’t do? Get a new job? Write that novel? Start your dream business? Travel?

Why “can’t” you do it? Money? Time? There is always a way to make things happen. You might not start out the way that you want to, but no one starts running when they are learning to walk. I challenge you today to think of something that you wish you could do, but “can’t” and make a step towards it. Make it happen. If you were to die tomorrow and you looked back on your current choices would you have any regrets? Change that. Today.

Overcome fear and you can do ANYTHING

But of course that is easier said than done.

I’m sorry that it has been so long since I posted. My little guy finally made his arrival and to be honest I’ve been trying to stay awake and alert enough to be a semi-sane parent let alone put coherent thoughts together for the blog. I’m still drained, but getting into a rhythm.

My little guy’s arrival is precisely what brings me to the subject of fear. However, if you are a young woman who is dreaming of having a natural childbirth in the future, you may either want to avoid reading this post altogether or use it as an example in your mind of what NOT to do.

October 3rd came and I could tell that the contractions I was having were real and was feeling relief. By the end of pregnancy, most women just want it to be OVER and to meet their child(ren). I could see the light at the end of the tunnel and prepared for an easy labor made possible with pain medication. I made dinner for my two year old and wanted to get her into bed before leaving for the hospital. She is certainly a high needs kid and I didn’t want grandma to have to deal with the horror of bedtime without mommy. Not to fear though, my contractions weren’t getting regular yet. Painful yes, regular no. (The doctors always tell you to wait until they have been regularly at least every 5 minutes lasting a minute for at least an hour) I put my two year old to bed and waited for my husband to get home so that we could go calmly to the hospital.

Calm is not how I would describe the actual car ride, however.

By that time the contractions (still irregular) had become so painful that I contacted my doctor and she told me to come in. Sure enough, after the twenty minute car ride and the fifteen minute hospital registration (isn’t that what I was trying to avoid by pre-registering?) I was up in labor and delivery and the worst news I have ever received was given to me: I was fully dilated and could get no pain medication.

And a full blown panic attack ensued.

When the contractions were getting worse and it was getting closer to push I was hysterical. I had made up my mind that I was going to keep the baby in my body forever and he simply was going to live a full life in my womb. I screamed at my doctor to give me a C-section, medication, anything to keep me from pushing this baby out of me. Of course, she must be used to such hysterics and she told me quite bluntly that there would come a time and my body wasn’t going to give me a choice. I’m not sure I could ever adequately describe the fear that pulsed inside of me. Eventually I turned my high pitched “I can’t!” into “I can do this”. I must have looked like a lunatic talking to myself, chanting “I can do this” over and over, but it was the only thing that calmed me down and helped me through the experience.

Sure enough the time came, my little guy was born and he was beautiful. It was one of the best and worst nights of my life.

Looking back on the experience I realize that if I had been able to look past my blinding fear, it would have gone much differently. How easy it is to say that now! Faced with the situation again I’m not sure that I could mentally “get in the game”. If I was able to push aside the fear and tell myself “I can” a little earlier, I’m sure that I could have had the beautiful experience that some women claim to have during a natural birth. I commend those individuals in the world who look past their blinding fear and get through their personal struggle. I only hope that with time I can learn to fortify my mind.

The joy or terror that we experience in any given moment is all about what we tell ourselves. Looks like I need a bit more practice!


Inspired tears

Sorry guys! I’ve been MIA for a couple of weeks. To be honest, I’m at the end of my pregnancy and praying that every day my little man will make his appearance and I haven’t been thinking about much else. He hasn’t shown up yet, but I figured putting up a post would be good for me! Time for me to stop obsessing (at least for a little while).

Over the past few days I was feeling a bit down and looked to youtube for some inspiration.

I’m not sure if I was just being a crybaby that day, but this beautiful video moved me to tears. If you are in a place where you don’t mind getting at least a little teary-eyed, check it out.

And then there was this one.. more inspiration for your Sunday!

I hope you find some inspiration today!

Start a new train of thought

It is widely known that the words that you think and the stories that you tell yourself shape your reality. Whatever you are telling yourself the most, will become the lens in which you view the world.

Change the way you think and eventually you will believe yourself. And your life will change in the ways you want it to.

That’s where affirmations come in. Think about the things that you would like to change in yourself and in your life. Make sure they are positive statements (avoid the words “no” “don’t” and other such negative words) and write some down.

I have written down 26 for myself and I plan to read them to myself twice in the morning and again twice at night. Perhaps it will take 15 minutes out of my daily life, tops. Here are mine:

1. I love to keep myself healthy

2. Every cell in my body vibrates with energy and health

3. I have a fantastic memory

4. I am intuitive

5. I am important

6. I am becoming better everyday

7. I love to exercise my body

8. I forgive myself for all past mistakes

9. I forgive every person who has undermined my self-esteem

10. I am making a difference

11. I am grateful for what I have now and look forward to the future

12. Joy overflows in my life

13. I know how to promote my emotional and physical well-being and take the necessary steps towards them

14. I am the architect of my life

15. My body is healthy, my mind is brilliant, and my soul is tranquil

16. A river of compassion washes away my anger and replaces it with love

17. My marriage is becoming stronger, deeper, and more stable each day

18. I possess the qualities to become extremely successful

19. Creative energy surges through me and leads me to new and brilliant ideas

20. I finish what I start

21. I am open to new experiences and relationships

22. My thoughts are filled with positivity

23. My life is abundant

24. I am blessed with an incredible family and wonderful friends

25. Everything that is happening now is happening for my ultimate good

26. My obstacles are moving out of my way; my path is carved toward greatness


Remember, at first some of the things you tell yourself may seems ridiculous (I love to exercise my body?), but give it a chance. If you say these things to yourself enough times your whole perspective on life could change for the better. Let me know some of your favorite affirmations!

Change starts with the brain & thinking processes. ~deb