Reach out of your comfort zone for your own good

“You can’t stay in your corner of the Forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.”
―     A.A. Milne,     Winnie-the-Pooh

    If you are like me, sometimes you find yourself at home wishing that someone would call or visit you. Well, snap out of it. You get what you give,  and when was the last time you called or visited them? People are what makes life worth living, so appreciate the people you have! Even if you are thousands of miles away from family and friends, there are other people around you to connect with. And if not… then you need to move!

    Life is too short to allow yourself to go through life not making and sustaining real connections with people. At first it might feel strange and unpleasant, but that is only because you are going out of your comfort zone. Push yourself.

    I want you to do something to enhance your life: make plans with someone this week. Plans that you do not already have. I visited my sister this weekend and OH MY did I need that! I really didn’t want to leave my house because I was feeling miserable and just wanted to be by myself (I haven’t meditated in quite some time… I need to start making it a daily practice). Turns out, that forcing myself out of the house and visiting some loved ones was just what I needed.

    It may seem odd to some of you, but sometimes loneliness can become comfortable. Reach out of that comfort and connect.

It’s Who You Spend Your Life With That Really Matters

I have  come to realize in the last few years that no matter how many fun or interesting things there are to do, or how much money you have to buy the material things that you want, it all means very little without someone (or a few someones) to share experiences with. With the right people, even the most dreary of days can be the most fantastic.

Unfortunately, I have a terrible tendency to pull away from the people that I could love and have meaningful connections with because of the fears I carry with me. In my mind anyone can leave me at any time, and it FREAKS ME OUT, so I back off. Of course, then I never allow myself to get close to anyone and the loneliness is just as terrible (if not worse). This is my challenge to overcome.

What is your challenge when it comes to gaining and sustaining meaningful relationships? Let’s make a pact today to be more aware of our challenges and face them head on before they become our regrets. I want you to:

• Trust that you deserve relationships with people who want the best for you.
• Trust that there are such people out there waiting for you.
• Trust that you are worth being loved.

And if you cannot trust, tell yourself these things until you believe them, because you are worth it.